I had a conversation the other night with someone that could’ve been difficult. It turns out that I was wrong about what I thought the problem was. In fact, they were more hurt by what I thought was a passing comment. I’d got the wrong end of the stick completely.
When I had the humility to listen, I began to see where they were coming from. It could’ve been easy to simply dismiss them as wrong. Actually, we were both right and both wrong because it was a matter of belief.
Picking sides with dualistic thinking doesn’t often get us far in the long run. It just causes more division. What is important is to look at things in a non-dual way. Taking the good from both perspectives to search for a Third Way.
If we want to be seen and heard, we need to first learn to see and listen.