We spend so much time in our own worlds that we sometimes forget to see the other.
I know I’ve been guilty of this recently, especially in the run up to Christmas when everything seems so rushed. We can miss what’s going on right in front of us when we’re on our own “mission”. Brain studies show this, as we spend around 95% of our days on autopilot. But this can become a concern when we miss what matters most to us.
For me, that has been relationships and friendships with others. It’s so good when we can spend time with those that matter to us, but sometimes I get more caught up in making sure I “see” people and catch up with them, rather than actually being present with them.
I’ve noticed this in myself when trying to combine meeting people with other things – trying to cram everything in to limited time. This is not very helpful. Often, it leads me to being more stressed and missing the actual point of being with other people: to simply spend quality time with them.
When was the last time you created space in your schedule to just spend time with one person?