“What Is” not “What If”

When I was in Germany just before Christmas, I woke up on the Thursday morning, excited for a day helping out in the nursery, only to find myself on the phone with my host’s husband telling me I had to leave that evening.

Sadly, my host had been quite ill for the past few weeks and her condition had worsened in the last few days. Luckily, I was able to change my flight cheaply and managed to come home earlier to spend more time with my family and friends. 

But that morning I remembering being quite shocked. I got upset on the phone to my parents, explaining the situation and worrying about the health of my host. I had had a lovely week, albeit cut short, and it was a shame not to spend more time with my hosts grandchildren, who were so much fun.

However, things don’t always go to plan. Employers seem to like the buzzwords “adaptability and flexibility” in CVs I’ve filled out recently. But it’s only in certain situations, when we actually have to go through these difficult moments and emotions, that we learn to be more accepting. Yes, this or that could have gone differently or gone better, but we waste so much time worrying about the “What Ifs”.

This experience has taught me to move with the flow of “What Is” not “What If”. Can you be at peace with plans changing this week?