“We don’t see things as they are; we see them as we are.” — Anaïs Nin
We might think we see things with clarity and understand them. We long for the objective, to give us empirical evidence for truth. This is important: science and mathematics have brought much good to the world. We need them.
But when we come to look at things from “our” perspective, we might not be seeing the whole truth. The ancient Indian Parable of the Blind Men and the Elephant might have something to tell us here.
As humans, we are not simply cold, rational beings. We have been endowed with both reason and emotion. We can reject our humanity – our messy humanness – and hide from who we are.
We can also come as we are in our relationships with ourselves. But to come to accept that we are fully accepted in all our brokenness is a lifelong journey. We must first hold up a mirror to ourselves and acknowledge exactly what is there. When we can hold all our woundedness with a gentle self-love and kindness, then we might know that we are all human. We are all wounded and we can help each other move forward on our healing journeys.