Forwards Or Backwards?

I met an old friend a few weeks ago because we needed to have a hard conversation. It’s taken a long time to get to a point where we could sit down and talk. Before, when we’ve tried to clear the air between us, it’s been very emotionally charged and still too raw. The healing time was needed.

I was worried about it at first because I didn’t want to miss the chance to clear the air again. We met up at Christmas and in the end, we didn’t really have much time to chat because I was very anxious about it and there were other mutual friends at the gathering, so I avoided the difficult conversation. This time, it was much more fruitful. We spoke about life, change and moving forwards.

We have the choice many areas of our lives whether to move forwards or backwards. This is hard because it can seem tempting to have a romantic view of the past. Psychology tells us this in the cognitive biases we have about past memories.

But we can also take the risk of moving forwards. This is hard because it’s scary, it’s the unknown and takes us out of our comfort zones. Here we can grow, but it’s our choice.

Is there an area of your life where you need to move forwards?