We live in a culture that obsesses about what others think. I worry about what people think I’m like, the way I speak, the way I dress, the way I come across.
The list goes on.
We overthink what we post on social media – pictures, the filters, captions, edits, tweets.
Again, the list goes on.
But the reality is that most of the time (and most people) are looking down. We’re looking down at our phones and lost in our own worlds. We don’t pay much attention to those around us. We acknowledge things that catch our eyes and may briefly give them attention or comment. But soon enough, we’re back to scrolling.
This should empower us to simply be ourselves. But it can paralyse us.
We wonder: “what will the Others think and say?”
The sad thing is, most people we worry most about pleasing are not even worth our time of day. I’m sure there are people that would say I’m wrong. I’m sure there are people who aren’t looking at their phones, but at those around them, always commenting and criticising.
These people are probably just as insecure about themselves as us. They probably feel a need to comment about others what they really wish they could do themselves – to actually be themselves.
It’s a lot easier to conform to what we think “people” want us to be like than listen to the Authentic Voice that guides us.