A Lack Of Presence

I think and write about Presence a lot and as you can probably tell, I’m still a bit rubbish at practising what I preach.

In the recent phone conversations or video calls I’ve had, I’ve found myself not being very present with those I’m speaking with.

I’m always trying to do something at the same time; whether I’m cooking or doing ‘life admin’ on my laptop. These aren’t bad things and are somewhat necessary, but I wonder if I would be better just sitting and being present in the phone conversations.

I’ve made this a bad habit. Rather than suggesting: “I’m going for a walk, do you want to ‘join me’ virtually and we’ll walk and talk together?”, I’m trying to catch ‘two birds with one stone’ all the time.

I know I shouldn’t beat myself up about this, but there is probably a reason behind why I’m doing it:

Is it because I feel like I’m ‘too busy’?
Or falling behind with work?
Or that there’s something else that I need to be doing?

The paradox is, if I took the time to agree to walk and talk or sit down and be present, I’m sure I’d get more from those conversations.

In the phone conversations that you have with others, are you present? When are you present and when do you feel like you’re not?