I Wish It Could Be Valentine’s Day Everyday…

I live in a Western, Anglo-American culture that feels pressured to buy flowers, chocolates, and heart-shaped balloons every year for our loved ones. Don’t get me wrong, it’s kind to buy gifts for those we care about. But we can’t buy love, presence and affection. Often, it’s the thought that’s the most important thing.  The [...]

Treating Ourselves

“Sometimes we just need a bit of retail therapy” Since Christmas, I’ve been thinking about gifts, presents and what I need. We can’t expect what we buy to solve our problems. The dopamine kick of shopping is short-lived. Yet, the culture tells us we should continuously seek it to help ourselves and make ourselves ‘feel [...]

Keeping Busy

I previously wrote about how Western culture associates busyness with importance. Yet, this was not a criticism of hard work. Many people have to work hard out of fear; to provide for their families and put food on the table. We live in an economic system where many families live paycheque to paycheque. But just as we [...]

“Being Busy Being Important”

We live in a (Western) culture that values being busy and ‘busyness’.  When people ask us how we are, we want to answer: “keeping busy”. We associate being busy with importance. If we’re not seen to be busy, we’re either lazy or unimportant. Being busy being (self-)important Being busy is something we strive for. We [...]

Keeping Promises

I’ve recently been ordering some Christmas presents for my loved ones online, trying my best to avoid the Amazon monopoly. One thing that has struck me is how inundated online shops and courier services are with orders. Huge delays are to be expected for Christmas deliveries. This is understandable given the pandemic and the huge [...]