“‘Owt For A Quiet Life”

Some people just love drama. For some, it seems like life would be boring without it. My Grandad used to say, God rest him, that he would do “‘owt for a quiet life”. For him, life was better when there was no drama, fewer arguments and peace in the house. He was gentle and easy-going. [...]

Walked All Over

Sometimes, we find ourselves being walked over by others - partners, friends, clients, work colleagues, bosses. This isn't a pleasant experience, especially if it is by someone we care about. How do we challenge this? It might take a difficult conversation to address the issue(s). It might mean we have to face our fear of [...]

Speaking Foolishly

"A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing personal opinion." Proverbs 18:2 NRSV-CI We live in a noisy culture. In our busy lives - full of technology, television, schedules and social media - it's difficult to discern what is good and true. I talk and think about listening a lot but I'm [...]

“I Understand”

A phrase I’ve been trying to avoid saying for a while now is: “I understand” In reality, we probobly don’t really understand what the other person is going though. Their narrative, emotions and thoughts means they may experience something in a completely different way to us. Often, telling someone who is suffering that we “understand” [...]